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Any news, if you don't mind me asking?

 

Don't mind at all, thanks for asking :) No news on any tests they did, but I'm given to understand no news is good news! I may call at the end of the week just to be sure.. At any rate, they felt a "wait and see" approach was in order for my particular health goings-on. (I won't bother to detail those here, as they are female problems and likely to make a dude say "ok, I'm better off not knowing!" LOL) So I guess I am basically good to go for now!! Might schedule a few blood tests, too, though.. Had a super scary episode while driving two weekends ago where I honestly thought I was having a stroke. The two issues may not be at all related..

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Don't mind at all, thanks for asking :) No news on any tests they did, but I'm given to understand no news is good news! I may call at the end of the week just to be sure.. At any rate, they felt a "wait and see" approach was in order for my particular health goings-on. (I won't bother to detail those here, as they are female problems and likely to make a dude say "ok, I'm better off not knowing!" LOL) So I guess I am basically good to go for now!! Might schedule a few blood tests, too, though.. Had a super scary episode while driving two weekends ago where I honestly thought I was having a stroke. The two issues may not be at all related..

 

Hope you are OK.

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I am very sad today. My boyfriend travelled three weeks south to see his family and returned transformed, he announced to everyone he would break up with me upon his returning to our place, and did so. And I thought I would get old by his side. That I had found company for life. I am not depressed, just very sad. But I know the sun will appear after this. It always does.

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I am very sad today. My boyfriend travelled three weeks south to see his family and returned transformed, he announced to everyone he would break up with me upon his returning to our place, and did so. And I thought I would get old by his side. That I had found company for life. I am not depressed, just very sad. But I know the sun will appear after this. It always does.

 

Sorry to hear this man :(

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Thank you guys, your words were priceless to me. The reasons are many after 8 years of daily living. But he told me that my brother deceiving him about money - which I paid back from my own pocket, and my personality were too much for him. Sad thing is that I am a person who tries to see the brighter side of people and situations, but apparently it didn't work for us. Hope from the bottom of my heart that no one experiences this, I simply feel abandoned, left behind. If you don't want to see a man crying, then don't look my way. Sorry for the sad words, never thought I would share this sort of emotions in Psynews. :)

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So sorry to hear about this Procyon, things ending is tough enough, but to come out of the blue like that --- my heart breaks for you :( I hope your days get sunnier of their own volition real soon!!

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As I am in a blue mood, and I have already opened my heart in this topic, I would like to say some things out of experience (I am not preaching, mind you), because I see many people lonely, or that they think they can't find love, when love is so near them, but they can not understand it.

 

My boyfriend and I had another conversation today, I asked him what went wrong in his view. In short, he told me that he thinks that the flame of passion is not burning anymore as it was once between us - this is his main reason, among others, to have taken the decision to start a new life. I told him that, to me, life has taught that passion is a flame that burns intensily, and that after that it's like a burning coal that will keep a relationship warm thru the years.

In short, we have different views on what love is: to him, it's a consuming emotion. To me, it's calmness. I am terribly sad, because I like him so much, and he will not only step out of my life as my partner, but he also was half of our business, and we will sell it. It is the end of a dream we shared once.

But mostly, I feel sad for him: he will learn the painful way that love is gentle, that it takes time, and a marriage is a friendship that lasts thru good and bad times.

 

This week, just one day before he brought up with me, my sister coincidentally came to visit me. She is a beautiful, sweet girl. She was dating this easy guy (she is a flight attendant, he's a pilot) for 8 years. In that point, he decided to undergo a hair treatment because his image is important inside the company. I don't know if you know, but hair chemical treatment causes temporary impotence. This triggered a crisis in their relationship, which she took as an excuse to end it, adding also that she was tired of the sameness of their day by day. He asked her to understand his treatment, it would be temporary, and that their love was stronger than sex. Her Facebook profile of that time has lots of pictures with tens of handsome men in bars and clubs, of course she was on the hunting. It took her two months to realize how wrong she was. She realized she missed the calmness, the easiness she despised so much. Only to discover that he had recovered from the treatment and was so hurt from their break up, that he asked her to give him time to think. It has been two years since then. He is now father to a baby boy with another flight attendant. My sister has not recovered yet.

 

Sure, love has many facets and one relationship is not like any other one. I just wanted to say: love can be calm too, be easy, be a little of the same day after day. I want to believe that.

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Very wise words and perhaps something that is only truly learnt for ones self with age and experience..

 

There is a balancing act of intensity/passion and calm/contentment that every relationship is made of.

 

Sometimes people feel one must take the place of the other when really it should be a balance of both for a healthy relationship.

 

Wish you luck mate and hope it all turns out for the best. At the very least you will learn something from it, not that that helps right now.

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I don't know if you will call wise again after reading what I am posting below, but as I have told you guys what happened, I decided to tell you the next step I decided to take. First, I am fine. As I am an experienced man (both emotionally and sexually), I have walked this path before - though knowing what pain is never makes it easier to be dealt with it when it hits you. You feel it, period. Well, I don't think there'll be a "let's try again" episode in our history, so I naturally moved ahead. I am doing everything I can to help him, to be his friend - like calling my friends secretly and asking them to invite him to clubs and bars, for I see he is not moving ahead with his life as fast as I am. I mean, I like him to the point of wanting to see him well, happy, having fun. In short, I want him to start a new life with happiness, and I will do my best to contribute to that, even in the backstage.

The "unwise" part comes now: I am now a single white man, still considered handsome and sexy (frankly I think I am in better shape now in my forties - I am 43 - than 10 years ago). I am free, and I will do sex, a lot, with known and unknown men, like in a porn movie (safely, of course). Last time I had a break up, ten years ago, I went into a sex marathon that made me fans to this day. I am that good in bed, I admit. This is part of me, this is how I deal with losing someone. Is it ugly? Is it natural? I don't know. I am deeply sorry if I am shocking someone here - though I don't think anything can shock anymore these days - but at least I am being frank. BTW, I would rank my happiness now at 5. Will reach 10 again soon. As I told you, I have walked this path before...

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I don't know if you will call wise again after reading what I am posting below, but as I have told you guys what happened, I decided to tell you the next step I decided to take. First, I am fine. As I am an experienced man (both emotionally and sexually), I have walked this path before - though knowing what pain is never makes it easier to be dealt with it when it hits you. You feel it, period. Well, I don't think there'll be a "let's try again" episode in our history, so I naturally moved ahead. I am doing everything I can to help him, to be his friend - like calling my friends secretly and asking them to invite him to clubs and bars, for I see he is not moving ahead with his life as fast as I am. I mean, I like him to the point of wanting to see him well, happy, having fun. In short, I want him to start a new life with happiness, and I will do my best to contribute to that, even in the backstage.

The "unwise" part comes now: I am now a single white man, still considered handsome and sexy (frankly I think I am in better shape now in my forties - I am 43 - than 10 years ago). I am free, and I will do sex, a lot, with known and unknown men, like in a porn movie (safely, of course). Last time I had a break up, ten years ago, I went into a sex marathon that made me fans to this day. I am that good in bed, I admit. This is part of me, this is how I deal with losing someone. Is it ugly? Is it natural? I don't know. I am deeply sorry if I am shocking someone here - though I don't think anything can shock anymore these days - but at least I am being frank. BTW, I would rank my happiness now at 5. Will reach 10 again soon. As I told you, I have walked this path before...

 

Why do you think it's unwise? If you're that good man you are making people happy! You have a gift, always try pushing your boundaries and keep doing what you're good at. Channel their pleasure into your own heart and mind. Maybe you'll find someone that can sex you up to 10 and beyond. :)

 

Never stop.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kGEKnvXfYkU

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i used to be 1 for a long time with anxiety and depression

 

but after a very long time in this state wanting to kill myself several years (only reason i didnt do it was my mother- couldnt do that to her. Im 30 but we have a great connection still)

 

 

 

but after years went by in this "1" state of unhappyness something just clicked.

 

I guess it was the fear of going insane or fear of losing it that disappeared.

 

Now i couldnt care less what happens to me, or to my life.

 

I am even welcoming losing my last money and living on the street.

 

 

I feel I have learned the meaning of life going thru this misery, and now im at a number not present on this scale.. im not happy but not unhappy

i just dont care about anything that happens to me.

 

i still care about the ones i love, but not myself. a sense of freedom.

 

 

 

hmmm maybe i should have written this in the Im Drunk Thread.

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Thanks Negrosex. I somehow agree with you. As long as I don't hurt anyone, it's ok. Well, I love my crooked-righteous self-explanations to justify my nasty behavior :D .

 

Now seriously, Alien, I think everybody has had this feeling at some point of their lives. Freedom, free from anyone, from compromises. I have thought more than once"what if I pack a pair of jeans, some t-shirts" and just disappear somewhere. I think this is natural to us, we just don't it because our fears are stronger than our boldness. I have thought of fleeing from everything to the north of Brazil, where's it's warm, people are kind.

 

Of course, there are bad stories we now, like that American guy who pursuit freedom and poverty and ended up dead after eating a poisonous weed. Or people that really disappear. But there are sexy, funny, happy stories too. I just say one thing: keep yourself alive. Life may not be the way we want, but it's worth. Wish you better days!!

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